In the car for three and a half hours driving home from Christmas festivities, I heard Colbie Caillat’s song “Try”, twice. As I listened, it brought to mind her music video—where she and all these women take off their makeup, on camera. It always makes me cry.
Alone in the car, I had some time to think about that..
Go out without makeup, without covering up the dark circles under my eyes…and the occasional chin blemish I still get? (Tina Fey calls it “Ch’acne”–short for Chin Acne–hearing it’s so normal that Tina Fey gave it a nickname made me feel so much better!)
I’m one of those people who hasn’t left her house in decades without under eye concealer and face makeup. I couldn’t find one single picture of me without makeup (don’t know how to get a selfie from my phone to this website,or I would have posted one here, I swear!)
Wow! On the drive home I realized that, while I’ve done a lot of work toward body acceptance, apparently I left my face out of that picture. Why is that? Could that be the direct result of all those years of being told, “You have such a pretty face, if you’d only lose some weight…”? So, somewhere along the way did I decide the “face” had to be “prepared” and maximized to compensate for perceived body deficits? Or is it just pure vanity… or fear…getting worse as I age and lose any/all currency related to youth and appearance?
In 2014, I take some credit for not wearing eye shadow and mascara when I’ve run errands. And I only did my eyes twice during Christmas week. And, funny, nothing bad happened :-). Next, I think I’ll experiment with no facial foundation. How scary could that be???
Thank you, Colbie Cailatt. I love your video and I am going to take your advice and Try, Try, Try…
Anybody else have thoughts or issues about going out without makeup? Would love to read your comments…share below…
I’m Ellen Shuman and I am a work in progress, just like everyone else I know! I am also a pioneer in the field of binge eating disorder treatment; a Coach who specializes in helping people overcome binge eating, binge eating disorder, emotional eating, compulsive eating, and food addiction. I founded A Weigh Out Life Coaching & Members’ Circle, and Acoria Binge Eating Disorder Treatment (1993-present). I am a Past President of the Binge Eating Disorder Association (2011/2012), and I started the Academy for Eating Disorders Special Interest Group on “Health at Every Size”. Questions? Get in touch with me, email@example.com, 513-321-4242.