Last week, one of my west coast coaching clients told me she was heading east for a family wedding. She is still away…currently struggling…so today’s coaching call focused mainly on the challenges she’s experiencing on this trip…
“Always, the first thing my mom and grandmother do is look me up and down.”
She has been doing some amazing work; taking better care of herself. As a by-product, her weight has gravitated down to a more natural weight for her body. And EVERYONE who hadn’t seen her in a while commented on that fact. And people say the dumbest things!
“One person said, ‘It’s like hugging half the person I used to love.’ Another said, ‘You’re taking up so much less space’. Space? I thought to myself , I guess I have reduced my ‘body footprint’ on this earth. Is that a good thing?”
She relayed an encounter with someone she described as having “just ballooned back up” after losing a lot of weight on a diet.
“She came running up to me and said, ‘Oh my God, you look amazing! You have to tell me everything you’re doing. Don’t leave anything out!’ As I started to explain what we’ve been working on; living in the moment, practicing self-care, reducing emotional eating, eating intuitively… she got this look on her face as if she were thinking, ‘What? Have you joined a cult or something?’
“Part of me liked the new attention. A bigger part of me felt very self-conscious that everyone was looking at my body. No one ever commented on my body before…this all made me very self-conscious and uncomfortable.”
“Oh, it opens me up to all sorts of new possibilities.”
Like what kind of possibilities?
“Being out in the world and participating, instead of hiding in my house…”
“Next thing I knew I was eating a whole loaf of bread at Buca di Beppo and every greasy cheesy thing I could get my hands on.
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