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Lonely…and Bingeing Online? Look Up, Instead.

Are you lonely? Sometimes, when I feel lonely, instead of making an effort to connect with people in a more personal, emotionally intimate way, I find myself bingeing online; reading and posting a lot of little nothings on Facebook.

I was a late adopter of social media. I admit I often find it fun and informative; a quick, non-intrusive way to find out what old and new friends are doing these days. It’s a great way to kill some time. I get to lurk; see the fun other people report having; live vicariously. I’m happy for them, sometimes envious, sometimes I feel left out.

Lately, I’m acknowledging that it’s just not satisfying; I liken it to eating a bunch of empty calories. It leaves me feeling empty, malnourished. When I spend too much time on Facebook, I achieve this illusion of emotional intimacy. The truth? For me, it’s a lazy, non-committal, risk-free way to get my friendship and my family needs met. This is not the life I want…

I know I’m not alone. Watch this…then, try turning off your computer, iPad, smartphone, Gameboy, XBox, etc. What’s that like for you?

“I have 422 friends and, yet, I’m lonely. I speak to them all every day and, yet, none of them really know me…LOOK UP.”


What do you think?


Ellen Shuman is a pioneer in the field of binge eating disorder treatment; a Coach who specializes in helping people overcome binge eating, binge eating disorder, emotional eating, compulsive eating, and food addiction. She is the founder of A Weigh Out  Life Coaching & Members’ Circle, Acoria Binge Eating Disorder Treatment (1993-present). She is a Past President of the Binge Eating Disorder Association (2011/2012), and Co-Founder of the Academy for Eating Disorders Special Interest Group on “Health at Every Size”,, 513-321-4242.

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I have worked in the Wellness Field for 30 years. I created an Emotional Eating & Binge Eating Disorder Recovery Program way before most people knew BED was an eating disorder, NOT a “willpower” issue. Personally, I suffered for years before finding answers and the help I needed and deserved! I became a Coach in 1997 to help others who were still suffering as I had. I love being a Coach!


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