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“Just Go Around!”

When I was visiting my Mom in her nursing home last week, I heard an older woman’s angry voice in the hallway say, “Stop pushing me”. From the arm chair where I was sitting in the corner of my Mom’s room, I glanced toward the hall, but there was no one in sight.

A minute or so passed. Then, I heard the voice again. “Stop pushing me”. A minute later, again, “Stop pushing me!”. This time, one wheelchair came into view, along the left side wall of the hallway.  The woman in the chair just sat there. She did not have her hands on the wheels, but then I saw her chair lurch forward, just a few inches. The woman said, louder this time, “STOP PUSHING ME!”

That’s when I saw the second wheelchair come into view immediately behind the first. For several minutes, I watched with amazement as the woman in the back wheelchair very deliberately and painstakingly, time after time, got close enough to maneuver her foot onto a metal bar under the first woman’s wheelchair and pushed her chair forward a few inches.


“You’re holding up the whole line. I can’t be here all day!”, said the pusher.

“I am? Who says?”, said the angry woman being pushed.

I had to laugh. There was no line; just two old women in their back-to-back wheelchairs in a 20 foot wide hallway. There was no one else in sight.

Not sure this was any of my business, I approached a nurse at the nursing station down the hall. She poked her head around the corner, saw who was involved, smiled and said, “Oh, yes, Ruth, the woman in the second wheelchair, doesn’t like to go around anyone. She’d rather push someone all the way down the hall than simply create a clear path for herself.”

Over the years, how many times could the same have been said about me? And I don’t have dementia…

How about you…ever chosen to stay on a blocked path, or pushed someone else, rather than create a clear path for yourself?



Ellen Shuman is a Life Coach who specializes in empowering people who are working on emotional and binge eating recovery. She is the founder of A Weigh Out & Acoria Eating Disorder Treatment, President of the Binge Eating Disorder Association (BEDA), and Co-Chair of the Academy for Eating Disorders Special Interest Group on “Health at Every Size”,

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I have worked in the Wellness Field for 30 years. I created an Emotional Eating & Binge Eating Disorder Recovery Program way before most people knew BED was an eating disorder, NOT a “willpower” issue. Personally, I suffered for years before finding answers and the help I needed and deserved! I became a Coach in 1997 to help others who were still suffering as I had. I love being a Coach!


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