Freedom from Emotional Eating, Food & Weight Obsession

I Pushed “the Invisible Button”

I was walking to my theater seat this past Sunday when I heard someone call my name. It was an old friend whom I had dropped like a hot potato about nine years ago. She had been a good friend for eleven years prior; someone I had cared about a great deal…someone who I believed cared about me, as well.

But I was in a bad space nine years ago; feeling particularly emotionally vulnerable. On two occasions in a row I had dinner with this person and left feeling hurt by something she’d said. All these years later, I still remember details of those perceived slights (funny how we don’t tend to remember all the good stuff that’s said to us ).

Thinking back to her comments now, I know I distorted what happened to fit how insecurely I was feeling at the time. Her comments were not really that big of a deal. But back then, whenever I felt hurt, rather than acknowledge my feelings and using my voice, I would simply push “the invisible button” and eliminate from my life anyone I thought had slighted me.

I learned this behavior as a child. Feelings were NEVER processed in my family. Conflict often lead to the end of relationships.  

To Read More, Sign In >>
Members: Login for Full Access
Not Yet a Member?: Learn About Joining. Get Instant Access (21 Day Free Trial)

Found this article useful? Please share it with your followers!


Free Guide + "Ellen's Weekly Empowerment Tips"

About Ellen Shuman

Ellen on the phone

I have worked in the Wellness Field for 30 years. I created an Emotional Eating & Binge Eating Disorder Recovery Program way before most people knew BED was an eating disorder, NOT a “willpower” issue. Personally, I suffered for years before finding answers and the help I needed and deserved! I became a Coach in 1997 to help others who were still suffering as I had. I love being a Coach!


Related Articles

Parents Bullying Kids About Weight

I just read a New York Times article that made me very sad. It’s all about parent’s “bullying” comments about their kid’s weight…and the  impact

“I Deserve To Binge.”

Many years ago a client told me she binged because she felt she “deserved to binge”. That was the only way she knew to give

What do you know about PCOS?

It is estimated that around 10% of females have a condition called Polycystic Ovary Syndrome. The syndrome is characterized by insulin resistance, the hormone necessary