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Eating based on appetite; the new “normal”

A dear friend of mine, Frieda (we met in junior high school), is reading all of the A Weigh Out Empowerment Tools.  She’s up to Week #20 and says she’s learning a lot, including the fact that she is not really an emotional eater.  I just received an email from her that made that clear…and also made me chuckle. She wrote,

“My new favorite food item is chopped kale and watercress, I know I’m not normal. The kale has a salty taste to it .Oh, I am also having a serious relationship with mango….and I can buy 8 of them at Costco!!!!!! Will you address that in Week #40?”

Frieda, I know you’re not eating all 8 mangos at once, so I’ll address it right now. You’re eating what your appetite desires. How cool is that?  I like to think THAT is the new “normal”. 

Now that I’m not eating a lot of processed, chemical filled, nutrient-empty foods, I taste my food, too. Right now I’m totally into grape tomatoes with a little hummas…and fresh blueberries mixed with red seedless grapes. I often have a bowl right after dinner. Based on my appetite, some nights I find that to be a totally satisfying dessert.  On another night, I might want a piece of chocolate cake…and that’s what my appetite wants. And I was an emotional eater, to say the least!  With some work, even emotional eaters can change their relationship with food and can learn to eat healthfully, based on appetite and pleasure.

That’s what a former coaching client of mine, Tara, is doing these days. Here’s a note she wrote to me a while after she wrapped up our sessions.

“The most important thing you ever said to me in a session is,

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I have worked in the Wellness Field for 30 years. I created an Emotional Eating & Binge Eating Disorder Recovery Program way before most people knew BED was an eating disorder, NOT a “willpower” issue. Personally, I suffered for years before finding answers and the help I needed and deserved! I became a Coach in 1997 to help others who were still suffering as I had. I love being a Coach!


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