In the words of A.E. from North Carolina
“My experience with Ellen Shuman and A Weigh Out has been nothing less than phenomenal. For years, I was on a quest for freedom from binge eating and all the problems that come with it. I read books, participated in coaching sessions, watched online videos, etc., with no success. I seriously thought that I should resign myself to accept a life of constant struggle with food, weight, and body image. Something inside me still wanted to fight that dragon, and I knew there had to be a better way to live. I reluctantly searched online, yet again, and I thank God that I did because I found A Weigh Out and Ellen Shuman. The positive impact on my life is immeasurable. I could write for days about the freedom I have found, but I will simply say: trust this process. It truly is A Weigh Out.” *
In the Words of Denise in CA
“Words cannot simply express the gratitude I have for Ellen’s support through the years. I wouldn’t have made this progress in my recovery without Ellen! Thank you again!
In the words of Gail P.
(after attending Ellen’s Sunday Phone Seminar about Emotional Eating)
“I must thank you ever so much. After all these years of asking, “Why am I a failure at stopping this destructive eating behavior?”, you have answered my question and started me on my path of self-help and healing. I took notes while you were speaking and am glad you followed up by sending the materials from the phone seminar. I feel a heavy burden has been lifted from me. I am the type of person who needs to know the reasons why to be able to then go about doing something about it.
I am so grateful for giving people like you who will take the time to share what you know to help others in these situations. I plan to keep you posted on my journey of self-discovery and healing. I will be joining your membership on-line.
Thank you…..thank you…..thank you!!!!!”*
In the words of Julie in Arizona
I can’t believe how much I’m liking this stuff!! You are soooo helpful and I love that I am finally getting the help that I feel I’ve needed for years and years. Yeah!! Thank you!! I think this stuff is going to transform my life (not just the eating…makes sense because the eating issue really isn’t an eating problem). I’m very excited!
I also want to let you know that I appreciate how honest and frank you were with me this morning during our session…particularly when you said that the only way that it’s going to change is if I get clear and mindful about what I want and what I’m going to do about it…also, when you talked about choices and how I get to decide what kind of life I want to create. And all the info you shared about patterns, habits, etc… VERY helpful! I needed to hear the “matter of fact” info today. The whole session was awesome! I’m loving it.
I am amazed at how much you know and how you are such an awesome “investigator” in helping discover what needs to be addressed and talked about. Love it!!!
In the words of Carmela S.
I just wanted to let you know I attended a course on Emotional Intelligence yesterday and they asked us to list people we admire and the qualities we admire about them and the first person who came to mind was you! The qualities I listed were: intelligent, empathetic, intuitive, genuine, caring and successful.
They also talked a lot about “top brain” and “bottom brain”. It reinforced many of the things I learned from you.
I also wanted to let you know our last phone conversation really had an impact on me. You really got through to me with the “victim” vs. “creator” mentality. I have been catching myself much more often when I am in victim mode and consciously shifting into creator mode. For example, last night I got some bad news in the mail regarding money I will owe. I was very upset. I started in victim mode, ‘Why me, nothing ever works out for me, there goes all my money, I’m so angry, etc.’, and then I stopped and used my tools. I choose how I was going to feel about this. I chose not get upset, not to eat over it. I went into “creator mode”. You really did have a big impact on me!
I am so grateful I met you and that you have been such a positive influence. I feel like I have grown a lot in the short time we worked together. I am using the skills you taught me. I am planning to review all the handouts again this weekend and to continue to use all I have learned from you.
I hope all is well with you and I look forward to working with you again in the future.” *
In the words of Penny – a Michigan Executive
“I worked with Ellen for over a year where she served as my emotional eating recovery coach. This was my first and only experience with this type of coaching. I was and continue to be impressed with Ellen’s expertise, sound and tactical approaches, and expansive knowledge. Her multiple years of commitment and personal sharing were clear and thoughtful. She was prepared for every meeting and I felt strongly that she was always focused on my personal circumstances throughout our relationship.
I recommend Ellen’s approach to others who are willing to embrace a sound, dedicated, committed resource to augment your personal development.”*
In the words of Alison
(after attending Ellen’s Sunday Phone Seminar about Emotional Eating)
“Thanks for the great phone seminar, Ellen. I appreciate the info. Your principles really resonate with me. I’m in the middle to end of the emotional eating spectrum and have been exploring a wellness-based approach for a while. You’re the first life coach that I’ve listened to who combines neuroscience with holistic health coaching techniques. Thanks again for being an inspiration and getting your message out to the world.
In the words of Jake from Oklahoma
“What started as a journey about my struggles with food and emotional eating went far beyond what I expected. Ellen helped me see that everything I needed to live the life I wanted was right here within me. I just needed to clear some barriers in my mind—barriers that had built up over time. With Ellen’s coaching and the tools she provided, I learned how to see through my own mind. This changed my life. I am now enabled and empowered on a daily, moment-by-moment basis to see clearly what triggers my struggles and how I can move past them. I am no longer preoccupied with food or turning to it to soothe emotions I used to avoid. I have the tools to go headlong into living my life.” *
In the words of Lynn in Canada; an A Weigh Out Member & Participant in Ellen’s Free Phone Seminar
“I’m sorry that you had the big struggle with emotional eating that you had, but what you have done with that struggle is such a gift. Your materials are brilliant, and they make so much sense. I feel like I am finally encountering something really comprehensive. I also appreciate how completely up to date you are with the research, and the degree of your passion.
I’ve spent so many years feeling resigned to the toll that emotional eating takes on my physical health and on my self-esteem. Today I am daring to feel hopeful.
Thank you so much for the time you so generously spent with me today! It was lovely to hear your voice, and to get to know you a little bit.” *
With much gratitude,
In the words of Amy, Illinois
“Ellen, I’ve made tremendous progress – and I’m very grateful for your help in propelling me forward. Words fall short in my gratitude for all of your help! I feel like a new person – ready to put myself out there and go for what I want. With your help, I’ve reclaimed my life!!” *
In the words of Kalina B., Canada
“I thank you soooo much for your help. You are an amazing woman and a huge inspiration for the eating disorder battlers of the world. You are changing people all over the world. I will recommend you to anyone that I feel requires your expertise! Thanks again! *
In the words of Deb in Iowa
“Ellen, you have literally saved my life. You have taken me from the gutter and shown me there is a new way of living. I have never been happier. I had an epiphany during the night when I realized how strong I am thanks to you. I believe that continuing to get the tools, listening to your teleseminars and following your reading recommendations will insure I stay as strong as I am now. Thank you so very much!” *
In the words of Rob in NY
“Thank you again for everything…for all the great tools. I feel very fortunate to have known you. You have inspired me and have changed me and my life for the better. You are an amazing person and will never forget you. I wish you all the best.” *
In the words of Diane V.
“When I had almost given up on myself, my weight and my binge-eating, I found you. Thank goodness! Ellen, you provided me with real, applicable tools that I could use in my daily life. In all the time I worked with you, you were positive, patient, supportive and wise. You helped me course-correct when I was veering off into left field and always had practical, useful recommendations when I ran into roadblocks. More than anything, I felt you understood my emotional eating issues, never judged me and firmly believed in me. I am so grateful to you for all your help and genuinely feel sad that I won’t be speaking with you on a weekly basis, now that our work together is finished. Getting to speak with you was a gift for me – in more ways than you can know!
I thought you would like to know that I have lost 23 lbs. and, though my weight loss has slowed, I am feeling in tune with my body and content to let my weight settle where it naturally wants to.
I am so grateful to you for all your help, support, wisdom and encouragement. Thank you!!!! ” *
In the words of Karen in Oklahoma; A Weigh Out Circle Member
“Thank you for reading my post…I had no idea you would take the time to do so. I appreciate you showing personal interest in the posts. I have to say I’ve never visited such a comprehensive and well organized site. It is very professionally managed and I’m very impressed by the content.
It’s apparent to me that you’ve put your heart into this website by giving people like me access to the professionals and the latest information that’s out there. I can’t tell you how thankful I am for you. I was reaching the end of my ability to cope but now I feel a since of renewal and great possibility awaits me. It’s been a long, long time…” *
In the words of Julianne…
“Ellen, my work with you was a game changer for me and has helped me immeasurably! I love the ‘it’s not about the food approach’ you have taught me and the toolkit you have helped me develop to not only overcome binge eating, but more importantly, to lead a more fulfilled, balanced life. Through our work together, I have learned that I am not defined by binge eating, and that although emotional eating has served me for many years as a coping mechanism for life’s up and downs, there IS a ‘weigh out’. I’m not perfect, and there are still days when I turn to food for comfort, but I am so much better equipped now to identify the root causes of WHY I am bingeing and deal with those head-on, rather than self-medicating with food. Thank you again for your infinite wisdom, and for helping me see the light after so many years of darkness.” *
In the words of Denise S., California…
“I struggled with many variations of an eating disorder since the age of 16 (I am now 44). Although traditional therapy and support groups were helpful, it wasn’t until I began working with Ellen that I made significant strides with my recovery and taking the steps necessary to release destructive thoughts and self defeating behaviors. I NEVER before connected with the fact that I was using food, compulsive exercising and obsession with my body as a way to:
- Relieve boredom
- Tolerate uncomfortable feelings (mostly social anxiety)
- Take time for myself after giving to others all day
- Self Sooth and disconnect from the NOISE of life
- And the list can go on and on…
My food and exercise rituals shrunk my world down to a size that I thought I could control. I hid behind this façade for most of my life. After all, isn’t it a woman’s badge of honor to be so ‘disciplined with her food and exercise?’
Ellen’s coaching and tools helped me tolerate uncomfortable thoughts and feelings so I can be effective navigating through my life. My life has changed COMPLETELY as result. I am no longer living out my old story as a diseased, powerless woman constantly in fear. I have written a new story as an empowered, free, positive, author/creator of a life which I am grateful to be living.
One of the most useful “aha” tools Ellen helped me uncover is a barometer I now use to determine how I am living. When I begin to restrict food choices and obsess over body weight my life becomes very small. However, when I consciously choose to identify what the REAL issue is, I take whatever action necessary, whether it’s changing my mind-set or completing the task I’m procrastinating on, my life expands! Where I used to be a recluse in my home, I now love to get out to explore, taste new experiences. I choose to “show up” for others and most important, for MYSELF!
Thank you Ellen!” *
In the words of Amy from Chicago…
“Ellen, I have battled an obsession with food and food thoughts for over 37 years. I have tried a number of recovery programs and done years of therapy, all of which have given me valuable insight and helped me in many ways. Unfortunately, none of them changed my obsession with food. That all changed when I met you. My work with you has resulted in a binge free life! My obsession with food and food thoughts are gone. Completely gone!
Many of the tools that you shared with me were valuable and I use them every day. However, without a doubt, the self-hypnosis technique that you and I used is the tool that allowed me to let go of my binge eating. It was a miracle! After only two hours of using neuroscience to change my brain, the trauma that had been wired into my brain for five decades was rewired and my obsession with food was lifted and has not returned! The second two hour session, simply sealed the deal. I am binge free and I am so grateful.
Thank you!” *
In the words of Katherine, Illinois
I thank you for all the support and help your Membership provided me over the past year. I downloaded and printed all 52 Tools and put them in a notebook for future use, as well as helping me in the moment.
I learned new concepts and coping skills that I processed with my therapist.
I wouldn’t change a thing about your website and the online community support you provide. Thanks for your time and all you helped me with.” *
In the words of Annette, New Zealand
“Ellen, I’m so pleased I finally made that first call and listened to your free phone seminar! I sensed then a woman who would influence me and help me grow as a person and that gave me the courage to join in coaching with you.
Prior to finding you I had explored some other avenues to address my issues and found them to either be very abstract or rigid and overly concerned with structure. In contrast, I’ve found your process to be both flexible and very practical with real tools to draw on in various situations.
I would describe your approach as a mixture of: real life experience, non-judgment, wisdom, science, psychology and intuition. The perfect marriage! In addition, I was pleasantly surprised to discover how tailored the sessions were. I had anticipated it would be quite a linear path of materials being rolled out in a certain order. Instead you listened to where I was at in my process and responded accordingly with exercises you thought would be helpful at that point.
It also helped hugely to know that despite being a very successful and smart woman you had once also been at the depths of despair. That gave me much hope. You know firsthand the pain, the self-loathing and the despair that can be associated with being a binge eater. You don’t just speak from a place of intellect, you speak from a place of someone who’s truly walked the walk.
What I hadn’t realized when I started coaching is how much it would extend beyond the obvious issues (food and body stuff).
I believe your true work’s purpose is to help us fulfill our own unique potential, knowing that in doing so, other things will follow.
Thank you so much for helping me to work towards the goal of a mindful, engaged, vital, full, healthful life!” *
In the words of Denise
“Finding Ellen and A Weigh Out online has been life changing for me. The Coaching I did with Ellen has been one of the best things I have done for myself. I have struggled with emotional eating since I was at least 16 years old. Working with Ellen helped me to become more insightful of my triggers to emotional eating and to develop tools to prevent emotional eating and to develop healthier habits. Not only have the tools helped me with emotional eating, but also they have helped me in my overall life, especially with work and how to manage stressful situations better that will prevent binge eating episodes. I truly thank Ellen for all she has taught me. I finally feel as though I am on the right path to recovery from emotional eating.” *
In the words of Patty S
“I gained more than I expected from the website and tools. I have gained a more wholesome attitude towards my body and its impulses and new mindfulness. Thanks to you, Ellen, and this site, food has become my friend. It lights my way to my deepest self, and the journey of my life. to be more me and more in touch with my dreams for myself.” *
In the words of Carole K., Washington
“Ellen’s program is the best thing I’ve come across to actually help the underlying feelings and emotions. It’s a wonderful program.” *
In the words of Annette, New Zealand
“It’s a huge help to know there are a group of people who really understand your battles and challenges and that we have a safe place to share our ups and downs. I also agree that Ellen’s program is the best I have come across. It’s deals in science but also in the soul and that combination of practical and intuitive hits the nail on the head for me.” *
In the words of Nina, Wisconsin
“Ellen, Thank you for everything you’ve done and continue to do. You are wonderful and the knowledge you’ve shared here has been truly a gift.” *
In the words of YC in Washington
I think of you often. Just wanted to let you know that I am doing fantastic! No binges for over a year. No dieting and no weighing. I feel so liberated!! I can’t believe I lost so many years of my life with that crazy obsession. I feel like I have a normal and reasonable relationship with food and one of the best things is that I only have 1 size in my closet and it has been stable for over a year. I am accepting of my body and I actually appreciate it and see it in a completely different way. I can actually appreciate my own beauty now. I hope that doesn’t sound too conceited, but I really am so happy. I spread your message often. Thank you so much for guiding me to recovery!
Recovery is so worth the time and work it takes to get there!” *
In the words of Anne in Texas
“I started working with Ellen and was really thinking there was no way on earth she was going to be able to help me. Ellen proved me wrong quickly. She was patient and non-judgmental, while also speaking to me in a straight-forward manner. My sessions were specific to my needs and how the tools Ellen has developed pertained to me and my life.
The way she approached me and worked with me made me feel comfortable and inspired like I had never felt in any of the weight loss programs I had tried in the past. Seriously, if I heard “If you’re hungry go take a walk instead of eating” one more time I knew I would scream. Ellen gave me practical, easy to use tools that helped me identify my issues and work through them instead of trying to forget them.
Not only that, she continuously introduced new and effective tools to me as I progressed. She helped me realize I was a woman who could achieve anything I want to in life, with a plan and a can-do attitude.
Thank you, Ellen, for all of your wisdom and expertise in helping move forward with my life. I am doing so well now and could never have done it without you.” *
In the words of Marty in Canada
“I want to take this opportunity to thank you for helping me work through the deeper reasons behind my emotional eating and for giving me the tools that will help me in all avenues of life. I appreciate you very much!” *
In the words of Audrey M. in Maryland
“I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE talking to you every week and have grown so much as a result of all you have taught me. I had no idea when we first began talking about my emotional eating, that it would lead to coaching in so many areas of my life.
You have given me so many skills. My family and I have benefited so greatly from your counsel.
You are a wonderful woman, a huge inspiration, and perfect at what you do.
Thank you again for your advice!” *
In the words of Lisa M. in Albuquerque
“I enrolled in your program and love it!” *
In the word of Lisa G. in Nashville
“I continue to enjoy your website, blog, the tools, etc. It is always amazing how much you are in my head! *
In the word of Sharon K. in Texas
“I love the tools!
I’ve saved all the Empowerment Tools and can review my files when I need them.
You’re doing such important work!
I will never forget our frequent sessions while I was in DC and how critical they were to my recovery. You helped me hang on to my sanity and I will never really be able to repay you.
Keep up the fine work.” *
In the words of Monica in California
“I love your site and program!” *
In the words of Joanne in Connecticut
I wanted to take some time after we finished our coaching sessions, to be on my own before sharing my experience with you and A Weigh Out. I realized when we first spoke, and even more so now, that you brought a truly new way of dealing with eating into my life.
Dare I say you’ve developed a paradigm shift with A Weigh Out? Yes! The toolkit you provided is like nothing else I’ve ever been given in my 40-year struggles with body image, weight, and food. The tools truly are ‘emotional handrails’ that I use every day. And they work. Perhaps the greatest thing you shared with me is that the big bad FOOD demon I’ve been so overwhelmed by is just ‘a thought’; a food thought. It’s mine, I created it, and I can change it. Simple, yet so powerful. Thank you, Ellen for doing this work and giving me so much.” *
In the words of Lisa S. in Tennessee
“I just want to say that I truly value our time together. I continue to learn and grow – you are great at what you do! Also, the tools on the website are spectacular.” *
In the words of Lucinda
“You helped me change my life in such a profound way…
I’ve crossed some kind of barrier. I am no longer struggling with feeling stuck in certain areas of my life. Things are so great, and ideas, opportunities, possibilities are coming to me as you always said they would.
Thank you so much for being the catalyst for me to be a creator of the life I’ve always wanted. You provide real help, real guidance, real value in the work you do with people. I cannot say or express enough good things to you and about you.
Thank you a million times over.” *
In the words of Deborah Mlinar, Colorado
“Thank you, thank you thank you, for giving me my life back!
If I only had the money I’ve wasted in my life on diet programs, diet pills, diet food and even liposuction surgery, I could probably pay cash for a new luxury car. If only I had realized earlier that what I needed wasn’t a diet, or willpower. I’ve been on every diet imaginable and I’ve hated myself for years because I wasn’t able to keep weight off. I finally realized that I needed help in a different way.
Working with Ellen taught me so much more than how to lose weight. What I thought was going to happen is not even close to my results. This program is a “Life Changer”! It is an incredible journey that has transformed the way I feel about myself, my life, and my unhealthy relationship with food.
Before this program, my blood pressure was through the roof, I was incredibly unhappy with my career, and I blamed my husband for sabotaging my diets and bevy of other things. I was afraid to actually face things in my life, feel things, and I used food whenever I wanted to escape. Ellen provided me with the tools I needed to change all the unhealthy patterns in my life. By using these tools, I not only have a handle on binge eating, I am also in the present and enjoying my life, and I know how to handle all the things that have been weighing me down for so long.
I have made some bold steps towards changing careers, my blood pressure has been so low that I may be able to go off medication soon, and my marriage has improved because I’m not always nagging my husband. I feel fantastic and during the process of just doing this work, I forgot about my weight and body image issues. The funny thing is that I noticed my clothes were a little loose and when I got on my scale I discovered that I’d been losing weight naturally without even a thought of a diet.
Ellen is one of the most fantastic people I’ve ever met. I consider her more than a coach, she’s a friend, and she knows exactly how you feel. I strongly recommend this program and I will use the tools I’ve learned for the rest of my life.” *
In the words of Meg from Minnesota
“Things are going sooooo great! I really think things have started to all come together for me now. I feel so great and have actually lost my obsession with food. The other day I was walking down the hall at work and two women behind me were talking about what they were going to have for lunch and how they had been thinking about it all morning. And it hit me, I hadn’t given food a single thought…for days. Now that’s amazing!! Thank you so much for all your insights that helped me get to this point.”
(Update 3 months later)
“I am doing so well. It seems like so many things finally have come together for me and I have totally changed my relationship with food. It just isn’t as important as it used to be. I am just enjoying the new experience. I know I wouldn’t be here without your coaching and tools! I can’t ever express my profound gratitude!! And while I am absolutely not dieting or focusing on the scale I am actually losing quite a bit of weight. This is because when I actually let my body dictate what to eat I eat much healthier food and much less of it. My point in sharing about the weight loss is that it is working just as you said it would. I was somewhat doubtful but now have proof that when I eat this way my weight comes down naturally. I have no idea if I will lose more but I know that I will continue to eat in this new healthy way and that I have the tools to get back on track if I get briefly off along the way. Here’s to living in recovery! And here’s to YOU!!!!” *
(Update–11 months later)
“Hi Ellen, All of your tools are right on the money! I am continuing to do very well in my recovery.I am living a life free of obsession with food and feeling so fulfilled in many other ways. I just can’t ever thank you enough for helping me rediscover myself and my life. Thank you!!!!!” *
In the words of Marisa from Pennsylvania
“After embarking on my last of many diets, losing over 65 pounds and running a half marathon, I thought I had done it. This was it. I finally achieved success at losing weight and was a healthy, fit person. But, a year into maintaining that weight, I realized my struggle with food and emotional eating was still a very real part of my life. Slowly, the weight started to creep back on and my eating was getting out of control. Feeling lost and scared, I searched for help. That’s when I came across A Weigh Out and I am so thankful I did! I signed on for coaching sessions with Ellen and began to learn the tools I needed to cope with my emotional eating. Although I’m just starting my journey to recovery, I finally feel hopeful . I’ve spent so many years thinking that my issues with food would be a battle I would always have to fight. However, my coaching sessions with Ellen have shownme otherwise. I’m beginning to understand the meaning behind the food andI have skills available to break free from the emotional eating. Now, I can truly be a healthy and fit person from the inside out!” *
In the words of Dr. Dale
“Thanks so much for all of the one on one coaching. I was able to lose weight and achieve a major athletic goal. After years of searching, I was finally able to achieve goals while maintaining a balanced life.
Your approach is so effective and novel. I highly recommend your services to others.” *
In the words of Cindy
“Ellen, I have spent quite a bit of the afternoon reading through all of my A Weigh Out materials and wanted to just drop you a note to let you know how much I appreciate all that you have brought into my life. As I read what we have been working on, I am just amazed how spot on these things are for me. It’s even more incredible since I have been seeking some way to address these issues for as long as I can remember and it’s such a relief to feel like I have finally found the tools that I need to address them. Thank you!” *
In the words of R.R., Florida
“I attended the emotional eating teleconference this morning and wow does that make sense! I have suspected this for many years and just don’t know how to deal with it. Thank you Ellen for spending your time trying to help us! I am an office manager for an internal medicine practice for over 20 years and hear daily that we need to lose weight and exercise more, but mentally it is not that simple. So thank you for bringing this out in the open. I look forward to using the new tools I will learn.” *
In the words of Erica Michonski (after listening to the Free Phone Seminar)
“Hello Ellen, Thank you so much for all of the information this morning. It’s hard to believe it was free! I’m looking forward to reading more about the online support group.” *
In the words of Jo from Utah
“Choosing to work with Ellen has been the single most powerful catalyst for positive change that I have encountered. What began as a simple desire to control my unhealthy relationship with food soon transformed into an incredible quest in which I was able to discover my deepest, most authentic self and to learn to bridge the gap between the life I was living and the life I said I wanted. By doing this work I received the tools necessary to change unhealthy patterns, the wisdom and encouragement of someone who had walked a similar path, and the empowerment to become my bold, authentic and powerful self. Like a string of dominoes, once I began using these skills, it was impossible not to make positive change in all other areas of my life. I now know that you cannot change your emotional eating without developing an intensely deep love for your life, for living it, and for the beauty that is (and always has been) within you.” *
In the words of Julie in Minnesota
In the words of Audrey M. in Maryland
“I thank God that he put me in touch with you. I have set clear intentions for the future and can see myself very clearly fulfilling those future goals. Big Big Hug to you! ” *
In the words of Carole K. in California
“Ellen, first, Happy New Year! I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for your support in helping me get my manuscript in on time. I turned it in at 7:00 on January 3rd. They got back to me within 24 hours. They liked it very much and had some notes, so I’m starting the rewrite process…. but I don’t think I would have been able to do it without the pivotal sessions we had. I just didn’t believe I could finish on time and you walked me through it and gave me the 4-word mantra exercise, which I used throughout the days and the support to realize I’d met other difficult challenges and I could meet this one too. Which I did! You are such a talented coach! You get the first signed copy. Thank You!” *
In the Words of L.H. , Grand Rapids, MI
“Over the course of the past few months I am amazed with the support and as well as the internal shifts I have made with Ellen’s support. Having been through many, many different healing modalities (partial in-patient treatment, traditional psychotherapy) it wasn’t until I worked with Ellen that real, tangible progress and empowerment came into being. Together, we tackled the heart of binge eating. I’ve learned it is not just about the space we create between stimulus and response, but the curiosity and compassion to explore what is there in order to fully heal in that space. Ellen teaches real tools for everyday living. And this journey toward self-knowledge has been life-changing. Thank you Ellen for your wisdom, compassion, and commitment. You are a friend and a blessing to know. I truly mean this from the bottom of my heart.” *
In the Words of Claudia in Peru
A New Life!
“I had gotten to the point where I thought binge eating was going to be my way of life forever, that I was a failure, that I had no will power and instead of finding a way out I was trying to rationalize it. I was telling myself that it was just too hard to get out, that it was too much effort and I certainly could not do it, that it was all my fault and I just had to accept my situation; reacting to life in emotional ways as opposed to living it, the low self-esteem, the constant criticism toward myself, and telling myself that if I was only 5 kilos lighter my life would be better.
Then I stumbled across the A Weigh Out website, after surfing the net for a while. Initially I was desperately searching for new diets, exercise programs and detox programs. I had thought about it before, that I did have a binging problem but I thought I could exercise and diet my way out.
I decided to join the site, let me try something new, something different, let me admit that I have a binging issue as opposed to a diet and exercise problem. After a few posts and realizing that there were many people out there feeling the same way as myself I thought I was onto something.
Then came the day that I initiated contact with Ellen and arranged my first coaching session. I was nervous, I wanted to back out, I didn’t think I could talk to anyone about the way I had been living my life the past 12 years. Looking back now I am so glad that I took the step to take on some personal coaching. Having someone as understanding as Ellen, someone who has been through it all, who listens and doesn’t judge has made all the difference.
At first I thought weekly sessions would be too hard, it’s as if you need to meet certain goals by the end of each week, like a test you have to pass.
But it’s not like that, Ellen helped me motivate myself, see me for who I am, the wonderful person that I am and had been denying all these years.
Though I did get nervous before each session, the work we did during our calls was incredible. Though I am not done with my coaching sessions yet I can say that I am living life with less fear, with more happiness and openness than I have ever done so before.
Thank you Ellen, from my heart I can truly say that I am discovering the person that I am because of you. I look forward to continue working with you.” *
In the Words of Jeannine, Cincinnati
“I am 44 years old and had never had control of my life. When life got too hard, I would numb the feeling with food. Because I spent so many years numbing the feelings, I never learned how to be an adult and take responsibility for my life. I just kept running from reality. I never had any capacity for anything more than getting through the day. My parenting suffered, my marriage suffered and many times I considered numbing out for good.
Today, I have a life. I have MY life. I make each day, I feel each day, I live each day. I’m a great wife, a great mom, a great business owner and I get to make every day what I want it to be.
Thank you Ellen for teaching me the tools, for loving me non-judgmentally, for challenging my thoughts, feelings, words and actions, and for opening the door to the life I have always wanted. You truly have a God-given gift.
Thank you!” *
In the Words of Marnie from Minnesota
“I wanted to thank you for the time you spent with me and the other participants on Sunday for the free phone seminar. It was very informative and helpful. It also gave me a sense of hopefulness that I have taken the first step in being able to successfully deal with the complex issue of compulsive eating which has been a part of my life for a very long time. I believe I can learn effective tools and gain insight through this program.
Thank you so much for your knowledge and insight.” *
In the Words of Ginger from New York
“You are just amazing! I just read Empowerment Tool #22, “Does Physical Activity Have to be Such a Sore Point?”, which I thought would be of no interest to me since I am a couch potato. I remember you mentioned in passing that you are not honoring your body when you don’t respond to its needs. I just realized that about exercise–which I think I will call body movement-it is about honoring your body. That raises it a few notches. Body image or shame have nothing to do with it. It’s about self-care and respect.
What I am most grateful for Ellen, is how you have used all your suffering to help others like me. I knew from that very first phone call I had met a soul mate. No one else has had such an impact on my life. Martha Beck gave me the hope and you provided the solution. I will be eternally grateful.” *
In the Words of Tara from Ohio
“After our sessions ended I couldn’t get myself to send this testimonial because of fear. Major, major fear that set in. You see, if I sent this testimonial and gave you credit for helping to “fix” me, then I would actually have to be fixed. I wouldn’t have an excuse anymore. If I had put it out there to the world that someone gave me the tools I needed to stop binging so much, to control my emotions, and to be a more mindful person then I would be left with no cover. It would now truly be my fault if I didn’t change and that was scary to me. I figured if I didn’t give you the testimonial then I still had an excuse to fall back on if I slipped into my old ways. But you know what? You deserve the testimonial and I am finally in a place to be able to write it. You set a ball in motion that changed my life and I couldn’t be more grateful.
After our sessions ended I immediately began to spiral back downward because of the fear of doing this on my own, without your weekly support. The good news is that I bounced back using the tools you taught me. My progress slowed considerably but I always found that when I went back to the basics of what you taught me (and a few other tools I picked up along the way) that things were always ok. The most important thing you ever said to me in a session is, “it doesn’t have to be this hard.” That will never leave me.
Whenever I wanted to quit, whenever I slipped back into my old ways, whenever I felt like there was no hope for me and my relationship with food, I could hear you say those words to me and it would snap me back to reality.
I am the one making it hard. Food doesn’t have to be the enemy. It can be my friend and something I enjoy. No longer do I attach feelings of guilt, shame, control, chaos, or any other emotion to food. Food just is. It isn’t anything more or less.
I choose to use food to nourish my body and I also choose to use food to pleasure my senses but both are mindful acts now. I can eat a brownie and taste the brownie. Before, I used to eat a brownie and never know what it really tasted like because I was so disconnected from the act that I couldn’t find the true joy in eating a wonderfully dense, thick, chewy, chocolaty brownie. My senses are more heightened now and I realize that things I was sure I couldn’t live without in the past are things I can’t even stand to eat now that I know what they taste like. An Oreo tastes like chemicals – yuck. Yet, I used to eat them by the bagful. I find myself wanting to eat healthy things to nourish my body and because they taste refreshing and delightful. I enjoy cooking more because I cook whatever I want, without rules, and enjoy the bites until I’ve had enough. I continued seeking out resources after we stopped our sessions and have found many that have also helped me a great deal – more tools for my toolbox – but when I think about when my healing really started, it always comes back to you and, for that, I thank you.
I am more fearless now and am conquering fears that I never thought I’d overcome. So thank you again, because you have helped me to get to a place in my life I never thought I’d get to. I was on the edge and ready to jump when I first started working with you. My marriage was in a shambles, my binge episodes were at an all-time high, and I wasn’t very connected as a mother. Now my marriage is great, I rarely binge anymore, and I am a better mom to my daughter. I can definitely say that the grass is greener on this side of the fence!
I got on your website recently and learned about the recent O Magazine article. Congratulations! I wish you the greatest success in the world and am so happy that you are living your soul’s purpose and that I was touched by it. You are certainly an angel here on Earth.” *
In the Words of Margaret from Maine
“When I began my journey with Ellen I felt lost, out of control and heavy hearted. With Ellen’s help, guidance and support I now feel mindful, healthy and energized. I gained control, lost weight and found myself in the process. I am truly grateful for the tools she shared with me and the lessons she taught me. It was a wonderful experience that I would highly recommend to anyone who is ready to do the work.”
“Ellen…last month I walked over 100 miles. That seems like a lot (from here to Boston) but really not so much when you average it out! I have lost 30 pounds since Dec. 7th. I am totally grateful for feeling so good, for the tools you have given me and for my life in general. I certainly have come a long way since our first phone call, don’t you think!” *
In The Words of Julie in Minnesota
“Ellen, I used my mindfulness skills this morning — they work!! I went from feeling worried and having hunched shoulders to feeling calm and confident with my shoulders back. I then thanked God for you and for the skills I’m learning. Then I cried — the tears were from a deep part of me that is overjoyed about my new found skills.
Thank you for the work that you do — and for being so good at it.” *
In the Words of A,B., Ontario, Canada
“The past 18 weeks have been the most valuable time I have ever spent on the telephone!
Thank you so much for your guidance, mentoring, and friendship. It has been so nice to have a “coach for living” with such compassion, wisdom, and empathy. I feel that our work together has been a great success and I can now practice what I’ve learned. With gratitude and fondness…” *
In the Words of K.H, of Cincinnati…
“I could not believe that once again I needed to lose over a hundred pounds, weight regained after Lap- Band surgery. I was out of control and desperately searching for something, anything that might end this madness once and for all. During this time, I received an email from Ellen offering to help me change my relationship with food.
We began working together and I discovered my excess weight was not a lack of willpower, but that I was using food to cope with life. I learned to recognize the difference between physical hunger and emotional hunger.
We worked together for over six months before I lost the first pound, but during that time I was reinventing myself and my life. Ellen helped me gain the confidence to go to the gym. Water aerobics seemed like a good way to start exercising, but it had been years since I had worn a swimsuit. Ellen pointed me to resources where I could find one I was comfortable wearing. While I was in the pool exercising I watched the swimmers with envy. They seemed so free. I started swimming lessons and recently, on a beautiful spring day, I went for my swim. I felt like I had just won the lottery and I think, really, I have. I never imagined that life could feel this good.
Thanks Ellen, I could not have done this without your help!” *
In the Words of Susan in Southern California
“I’ve heard it said that “when the student is ready a teacher will appear”, and Ellen Shuman was that teacher for me. She listened compassionately and non-judgmentally, encapsulated the issues, and “virtually” walked me through a set of wonderful skills that literally gave me a step-by-step approach on how to deal with my feelings, change the direction of both my thoughts and how I react to those thoughts and feelings. She did this with such compassion until I understood the skills completely and could use them on my own to achieve a life I have only dreamed about!
After 25 years of seeking out help and getting to a point of knowing the “why”, but never knowing how to change things, Ellen has helped me in a matter of months put the finishing touches on what it is I need. She has given me concrete skills on “how” to achieve a balance and harmony in my everyday life. The results have been amazing and life changing. She is an awesome teacher as well as a great role model for what she teaches. She is also one of the most compassionate people I’ve ever met in my entire life.” *
In the Words of Jennifer K., NYC
“I have not had even close to one binge in at least 6 months (maybe more…) – until I thought about writing to you today, the word binge hadn’t actually crossed my mind in months and months – I even forgot I ever had a problem!
Just wanted to thank you again for all of your help. The lessons you’ve helped me learn really help me on a daily basis, and give me faith to know that I will always have an abundance of everything I need, which is a really comforting feeling.” *
In the Words of S.D., from NYC
“Thank you, Ellen. Thank you for the phone seminar, the handouts, and for having the courage to do it for yourself, and for teaching people hope that there are ways to be empowered in the midst of those extremely rough emotions that have been very damaging for me.
The call was very helpful, you didn’t just learn it, you lived it, and that is truly inspiring.” *
In the Words of JJ in Chicago
“Ellen’s program, A Weigh Out, truly was my way out after 30 years of out of control eating. Ellen, with her non-judgemental demeanor and her expertise, coached me on how to finally be free to live my life with joy.
Don’t wait 30 years if you can help it! Thank you, Ellen.” *
In the Words of Becky Mollett
“I have a voice! Yes! Yes! Yes! Can’t thank you enough for the person you are helping unleash in me!
Thanks for sharing the gifts God has given you. They truly have changed my life for the better!” *
In the Words of Mary C, in Cincinnati
“I worked with Ellen Shuman of A Weigh Out from January to July 2009 regarding disordered eating issues and healthy weight loss. I learned about her thru local publicity (TV and newspaper), and several years ago participated in her call-in seminar to learn more about her program.
I found my work with her to be very beneficial. She has an excellent understanding of eating disorder issues, and how to coach folks to work thru the issues to address the root of the issues, and how to make sustainable changes. I achieved my goals of reducing my weight by 20 pounds, reducing my risk for diabetes (A1C levels decreased significantly), and sustaining my weight loss. Previously I would lose weight, feel deprived, and gain it back. Previously, the root of the issues were never addressed. Even psychologists and psychiatrists that I consulted over the years (primarily for other issues) lacked knowledge in this area.
The coaching and support provided by Ellen was invaluable and very useful. I highly recommend to anyone who wants to be healthier and deal with eating issues to use Ellen as a resource, especially if they are like I was, fighting a losing battle with weight and weight loss over many years. I had pretty much given up after repeated failures before, but knew I needed to do something different for my health and life. I really appreciate the tools and time and positive results that I received and have the tools and capabilities to sustain the weight loss I’ve achieved in the future. My family is also very grateful for my improved health and energy, both emotional and physical.” *
In the Words of P.S., Washington, DC
“On the list of life-changing phone calls I’ve made in my 30 years of life, my call to Ellen Shuman ranks at the top.Ellen is a natural born healer. She has helped me find my voice after years of silence and I don’t know where I would be without her patience, guidance, and partnership. As a woman of South Asian descent with a traditional Indian family, I knew that my family’s expectations had driven me to seeking control through food. My therapist never talked about this or even considered the possibility. On the other hand, Ellen knew instinctively that I needed to gain insight about my family issues to truly heal. She also studied my cultural background to be able to relate to me and my pain.
As someone who has suffered from binge eating disorder herself, Ellen offers insight, wisdom, and a formula for healing that works. And as an experienced life coach, Ellen forms a healing team with you. As a result, you never feel alone as you are learning the skills that will carry you through your hardest moments. Working with Ellen has been an irreplaceable step on my road to healing and I will always be grateful to her as a coach, teacher, and mentor.” *
In the Words of Hana, Ontario, Canada
“I’d like to thank you for the opportunity you gave me to take part in the telephone seminar.
It was insightful. I found it interesting and informative.
As well, I felt like part of a group, trying to understand and overcome a problem together….the fact that it was a conference call where you asked for direct feedback, and spoke from personal experience, made it very real and friendly….. thank you for sharing.” *
In the Words of Dawn from New York
“Each day things are falling into place easier and easier. Coaching has been one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself and now it’s time for me to step up. You are an awesome coach, thanks for your help in guiding me on this path.” *
In the Words of Shelly from South Carolina
“I had an emotional eating problem for a very long time.
I knew I was doing it because I had issues but I was not sure exactly what those were. I felt helpless because I knew something was wrong but could not articulate where it was coming from. Consequently, I would go on a diet only to fail because emotional eating was impossible for me to conquer.
Ellen helped me to see exactly why I was overeating and how it manifested itself. Knowledge really is power. Becoming aware of my issues changed my emotional compass and steered me in the precise direction I needed to go in order to correct my abusive eating patterns. I am now in control of my eating which is something I’ve wanted for myself for years. Even bigger is that I am in control of my life and do not have the food thoughts that I used to have.
Ellen taught me the skills I need to ensure that I continue this corrected pattern. I am comfortable with myself, at peace, confident, educated and aware!!! This will serve me well for the rest of my life and I don’t believe I could have realized any of this if it weren’t for Ellen.
Thank you Ellen for this most amazing gift. It has been wonderful working with you.” *
In The Words of Martha, Georgia
“I learned a lot during our time together. Thank you so much for your wisdom, insight, commitment to my success and passion for putting what you know out into the world.” *
In The Words of Jennifer K., New York, New York
“Ellen has given me back so many hours of my day and life. Now that I don’t spend time bingeing and self-loathing, I am creative, productive, and HAPPY! I feel a sense of freedom that eluded me for a good ten years. I no longer need food to self-soothe, something I used to think unimaginable. Ellen has given me all the tools I need to live a more meaningful life, something for which I am eternally grateful.
Thank you, Ellen, for committing your life to helping those of us who have nowhere else to turn.” *
In The Words of Bre from Ontario
“I would just like to thank you Ellen. You have been a blessing in my life and I have enjoyed our talks. I truly feel I have learned some life lessons along with skills I will continue to use in order to get to know my emotional self.” *
In the Words of Jay Gottlieb, DO, FAOCD, FOCOO, Dermatology/Facial Plastic Surgery
“Personal coaching with Ellen has helped me on several levels. When we first met by phone, I weighed 202 pounds, had a 39 inch waste, could not sleep at night and I felt overwhelmed on many levels. Today I weigh 160 pounds, I have a 31 inch waist, I sleep on average of 6 hours a night and feel in control of every aspect of my life. Though a series of phone coaching sessions, Ellen was able to analyze my issues and help me become aware of how I was interacting with people and situations. I have been able to help other people in my life with their situations because of my new ‘awareness’. My gratitude goes to Ellen.”
“Ellen, it has now been over 3 years. I read my ”greatful life” mantra every morning before I get out of bed. I carry a graditude stone in my pocket, first thing I put in my pocket in the morning and the last thing that I take out in the evening. I ask myself questions that you and I talked about on a daily basis. As a result, my weight remains at 160 and my times of over eating are really very minimal.” *
In The Words of D. Lewis in Florida
“The work I have done with Ellen Shuman over the past year has made an immeasurable difference in the way I view my life and conduct myself.
When we began our weekly phone sessions I was desperate to try anything to control my eating. I had been on every diet plan, weight loss system, 12-step programs, hypnosis… you name it, I had tried it. At 42 years of age, I was tired of it all, but knew there had to be something out there that would work. After reading an article in Oprah Magazine, that mentioned Ellen and “A Weigh Out”, I called in for the free one hour conference call. Ellen was speaking my language. The questions regarding whether or not I needed this program left me with a resounding YES! I realized that I needed to change my perception of and relationship with food. No easy task! There were worksheets, homework assignments, gratitude lists, paradigm shifts, and countless other tools that I needed to use in order to bring about the change that I would ultimately have to make.
The work took time and effort, but so did staying overweight. The energy I used to focus on food and diets was now being channeled into working on another, better way of looking at things. I learned that I had trained my mind to “go to food” in many situations where food was NOT the answer. This was neurological, but not irreversible. I also learned early on that there were levels of awareness. This allowed me to measure my progress without a scale.
I truly believe that I would not be where I am today without the help of Ellen and this wonderful program. Today I can look at my life, my choices, and my weight with a new perspective. It was never about losing weight with Ellen, it was about doing the work. The process. It was not easy to trust the process at first. For years, my focus was on a number- either on the scale or on my clothing. This time it was different, the focus was on me, and why I was making the choices I made. I was no longer a victim, but a well-equipped (with the many tools) participant in my life and a new respect for the way I treated my body.
I am so grateful to Ellen Shuman and the “Weigh Out” program for helping me change my perspective and my life. I know that she is only a phone call away, and there is always a well informed, caring voice on the other end pulling for me to live my best life!” *
In The Words of P.M.K. from Texas
“I am NO LONGER an emotional eater! I was referred to Ellen by my mother, a former client who has had great success working with Ellen. I jumped at the opportunity to work with Ellen after seeing the result of her work. Ellen has helped me to find the root(s) of my emotional eating and with much guided practice has helped me to use the tools necessary to overcome it. While I am no longer a client, the ‘lessons of Ellen’ will continue to benefit me all the days of my life. Thanks, Ellen!” *
In The Words of Alex from New York
“Ellen played a key role in my recovery from binge eating. Her strong believes that eating habits have an emotional side are true. Ellen, being very insightful, helped me to become aware of the issues that were hampering me from making a lasting change. She helped me believe that old habits can be changed for good and that everything depends on my own motivation and desire to change. I feel that Ellen is very invested in my success.” *
In The Words of Balinda from Florida
“Thank you, Ellen, for your wisdom and insight and for the great work you are doing to help people like me! The weight loss is very nice, but even better is that almost every day, at the end of the day, I have found myself saying “I have no regrets about today”. That is huge, after beating myself up so many times about eating. I am truly feeling that I have made a permanent life change.” *
In The Words of Gwen Sullivan, Texas
“I stumbled onto a podcast with Ellen while looking around on www.girlfriendology.com. I woke up this particular morning with the realization that I had lived many more years with my eating disorder than without it and I was so discouraged. After I listened to the podcast, I went to Ellen’s website and signed up for her free telephone seminar. I almost skipped it, but felt something tugging me in. When I signed up for your free telephone seminar, I thought that
1) nothing is free and 2) I was beyond help. I was wrong.
Your seminar was free and your approach was absolutely no-obligation. And, more importantly, I had a glimmer of hope that you could help me. (Do you remember how angry I was at everybody around me when we started?!?)
Fast forward to today and following 6 sessions with Ellen. I do not give a second thought to food unless I happen to be hungry. Then, I figure out what I want to eat and eat it with complete freedom. I go to parties and social events and don’t worry about whether or not there will be something I am “allowed” to eat at the event. Everyone comments on how great I look and wants to know what I’m doing. But the fact is, I haven’t lost any weight! And get this, I don’t care!! I am part of a group of women who post on a private blog. These women have never seen me in person and even they are asking me what I’ve done to change. I feel so good in my own skin, in my own body. I can look in the mirror with appreciation. I am grateful for my body and all it gives to me and does for me. For the first time in my life, I love myself exactly as I am and I have peace.
One of the most valuable and unexpected outcomes in this journey with Ellen is the creativity that has come to me. My mind is clutter-free. I don’t have obsessive thoughts around food and weight and body image anymore, and this has freed me to use my imagination, to be happy, to be more loving and kind, to appreciate my friends and family. I am finally at peace.
I had a long and difficult job interview last week and the interviewer kept tossing hypothetical problems at me. With each problem, I gave hypothetical solutions by thinking them through using Ellen’s tools of recovery. The interviewer actually asked me how I was able to come up with the solutions so quickly and told me how impressed he was with my problem-solving abilities. I told him that I had been working with a coach to overcome some obstacles and that my coach had taught me these valuable skills. Needless to say, I got the job. (I turned it down because it wasn’t in alignment with my new goals. Wow!)
Ellen, thank you so much. I want you to know how much you have helped me. I never thought it possible.” *
With much love and gratitude,
In The Words of Patricia from PA
“I was desperate to break the diet and binging cycle which had help me in its grip since I was a child. I never thought that I could ever make peace with food, and through my work with Ellen, I feel like I am finally able to eat like a ‘normal person’ without all the focus on body size, dieting, losing and gaining weight, etc., It’s been an enlightening and satisfying journey!” *
In The Words of Ann B., Florida
“Ellen, I have definitely continued to be impacted by the coaching time you spent with me. I’ve managed to lose about 20 of the 40 lbs I gained since moving here. The whole idea of being mindful, present to my feelings, actions, and thoughts has been powerful. Not in an instant change way, but dramatic over time. Thank you again for investing in me and my well being.” *
In The Words of Jon from Houghton, Michigan
“Working with Ellen in one-on-one telephone coaching has been life changing for me. She has provided me with the tools to help me “stay connected” in my daily life; and not to “disconnect” with food, food thoughts, or other compulsive behaviors. Before working with Ellen, I had no idea that is what I was doing. I have lost weight, but more importantly, I have found myself. It is so “freeing” to not be on a diet anymore.
Our work to address my 35 years of compulsive behavior has been challenging, but well worth it. I am continually amazed at how Ellen relates to all my “issues”, and how she has provided me new insights to allow me to see my way through them. I would recommend Ellen to anyone dealing with emotional eating.
In addition, Ellen has helped me set and achieve my personal and professional goals. Although we have not met in person, I truly feel I have found a life long friend.
Thank you, Ellen. I will always be grateful. ” *
In The Words of Christine from Salt Lake City
“I came across A Weigh Out purely by chance. I was reading the Oprah magazine and there was a great article on binge eating that I identified with. I saw Ellen’s name and immediately looked it up on the web. I was thrilled to see all that was offered and how perfectly it was matched for me.
In the time Ellen and I spent together I was able to zone in on where I was having trouble. With her gentle guidance I was able to develop tools to help me through the times that lead me to binge. The most interesting part for me was that while I was honing in on these tools for the purposes of my eating concerns, it actually started affecting all aspects of my life. I was more in control at work and I was spending less money of frivolous items – both of which were becoming concerns for me. Ellen has tools to help in every tough situation you come up against and by using these tools they no longer seem so tough. It was the best time and money I’ve ever spent! ” *
In The Words of Denise from Chicago, IL
“Working with Ellen has been an amazing experience. This is for anyone who has tried every diet program (like myself!!) and failed. The skills I have learned from Ellen I use every day and will continue to use them for the rest of my life.
It is a life changing experience!!!” *
In The Words of Rachel from Utah
“Ellen Shuman and A Weigh Out provide a special service in helping you discover what your emotions do to drive you to eat. If you are looking for a quick fix or easy way to stop eating, this is not the place to find it (it doesn’t exist!) However if you want to explore and learn what emotions are driving your hunger and then learn how to deal with those feelings effectively without food, A Weigh Out is your starting point. More than a month after completing my sessions with Ellen I feel that I gained the valuable tools I need to face my emotions effectively and deal with issues in my life in more successful ways than eating to cope with them. ” *
In The Words of Ann in Florida
I’ve learned by participating in one-on-one coaching and more recently your group conference call complementing the Eckard Tolle book series on Oprah. I had a major life breakthrough during the course of our ten weeks regarding my obsessive habit of worrying.
I’ve learned to stay focused on the moment at hand and, as needed, how to bring myself back to the present moment. I learned that my worry and regrets were either in the future or the past in most cases, therefore by focusing on the moment my tension has eased.
Thank you for guiding me on the journey to self awareness. I’m forever grateful.” *
In The Words of K.W. from California
“Ellen Shuman made a huge difference in my work to understand and overcome the binge eating disorder I’ve struggled with for most of my life. She was an amazing teacher, role model and support. She taught me specific tools to work with then checked in with me to discuss what worked and what didn’t. I felt I could share my successes as well as my failures with and she was never, ever judgemental, always eager to teach me something new, to try something different.
She was personally present in our conversations, sharing relevant bits of her life and experience to help me feel that I was not alone. While we focused mainly on eating issues, Ellen always worked with me as a whole person. When I was ready to talk less about food and more about the other things in my life I wanted to accomplish, she was a real support there as well. I can’t say enough good things about her. “*
In The Words of KH from Cincinnati
“I had just begun working with Ellen when Oprah’s Webcast for A New Earth was announced. Ellen offered to host a telephone book club to help us understand the book and use Eckhart Tolle’s ideas to cope with our emotional eating. It was informative and inspiring to share my thoughts, fears, and hopes with others who have a similar relationship with food.
Ellen guided us through the chapters each week and we were able to use Tolles’ message to understand our behaviors and to begin to change them. It was great to share our spiritual awakening with each other. The book is complicated and I would never have been as successful understanding it without the support of the group. I was pleasantly surprised that A New Earth was so useful in many areas of my life. Thanks Ellen, I look forward to the next book club “*
In The Words of N.B.from Wisconsin
“Ellen’s A New Earth telephone group was an enlightening experience for me. Having this opportunity helped me relate Eckhart Tolle’s concepts specifically to emotional eating. These concepts enhance the mindfulness skills and tools that I learned through coaching sessions with Ellen. I especially enjoyed the comradery that I felt between everyone on the telephone. It was a networking of people working toward a common goal and an extremely positive experience. “*
In The Words of Adele Barrett, Ontario, Canada
“I so appreciated the New Earth phone group that Ellen formed, it helped to bring the ideas of the book to life for me. It was great to hear how the other participants were using Eckhart Tolle’s techniques and melding them with the tools learned in Ellen’s coaching. I feel an awakening slowly blooming in my world, it grows a little faster when I share it with others. I miss Ellen and the group and hope that we will continue in the fall. “*
In The Words of K.K. from Ohio
“Ellen, Thank you again for an amazing session this morning. I am astounded by how all of “my baggage” is tied together.I think you just may have saved my life (and my sanity) after years and years of searching for answers. “*
In The Words of Lana from Chicago
“A Weigh Out is one of the best tools available for dealing with binge eating disorder. Ellen helped me to get in touch with my own thoughts and feelings, and learn how to change some of the more negative ones. She provided me with effective strategies for dealing with stress, anxiety, and depression – the root causes of my overeating.
It was nice to speak with someone who had once been an overeater. I felt like Ellen really understood what I was going through. She was sympathetic and non-judgmental. I enjoyed my one-on-one conversations with Ellen because the focus was on me – unlike other programs that I have tried. I would recommend A Weigh Out to anyone who is struggling with overeating. Healing is possible through this program. “*
In The Words of Laura Armitage, Georgia
What a relief to talk to someone who understood me so well. I felt so comfortable with you from the very beginning. I almost hated to reach a point where I could manage on my own, but I’m there! I really appreciated your endless listening, but also your ability to gently remind me of my thought patterns, goals and abilities. I really value our work together. I thank you for your interest in me, my family, and even my work in Africa.
This holiday season is such a relief! As you know, I have binged since childhood, and dieted and regained for over forty years. It is amazing to look forward to spending time with family and friends and not have a goal of either strict dieting or crazy overeating. Also, I don’t have to be the one to run all of the errands, just to be able to eat secretly. I’m so happy with how I feel (mentally and physically) that I’m not even tempted to have any food that I don’t feel that I can handle now.
Finally, at sixty one, I feel that my discipline with eating matches how I handle the rest of my life. I’m no longer an organized, sensible, sane person who has one very crazy “out of control” problem! Of course, I do realize that I have to continue to monitor my eating and thinking. Thank you so much for all that you have done for me, and for all that you do for others. “*
In The Words of Sue, Florida
“I am doing great and just wanted you to know that it all has so much to do with the skills you taught me. I just want to remind you that although my life is extremely busy, I think of you often as one of the best things that happened to me. Your coaching has helped me with food, family, work, and led me to the love of my life. My boyfriend proposed in June. We are enjoying being engaged and plan on marrying next year. Ellen, you make a difference in peoples’ lives. You are a gift.
With Gratitude! “*
In The Words of Mel Dyer, London, England
“I wish I could quantify the amount of energy I’ve spent over the last 25 years, looking for the ‘perfect’ diet. Having tried every diet, read every book, parted with significant amounts of money in the process, I’d come to the conclusion that I must have a character flaw. Until I found Ellen and I participated in the free phone in session and it resonated with me immediately. Though it was with some skepticism that I booked some one on one coaching. I’d had years of ‘failures’ under my belt and part of me felt that it would be inevitable that I’d have this to add to this list. So I promised myself this would be THE last attempt I’d try – and it has been ! For reasons I didn’t expect – that I can finally say – my search is over.
The one on one coaching has helped me identify why the desert cart held such allure and has provided me with skills and insights that have changed my life. I now feel empowered, and free to get on with living in harmony with food instead of at war with it ! “*
In The Words of Eileen Seaman, Cincinnati, OH
“My experience with A Weigh Out turned out not to be about my weight dragging me down, but how I was handling my life. I was going through the motions and frustrated that nothing was turning out the way I wanted it to. My goals were all swirling in my head and I was running in circles thinking if I could just lose the weight I would get my life together. Then I saw there was a free telephone seminar, listened, signed on, and week by week my self-created mess of a life was transformed into a calm, self-aware, mindful life that has clear goals and tools to change my life and keep my life the way I intend it to be. Thank you Ellen! “*
In The Words of Faith, Smithfield, VA
“The sessions you and I had have changed my life. Of course, there was a great deal of prayer involved also. But I want you to know since my last update to you I have lost 25 pounds! Not because I’m on a diet, but because I’m making better choices – one choice at a time.
Your question – “What is it I’m asking the food to do for me?” changed my entire concept of why I was eating. I realized that food CANNOT comfort me, love me, nor be my friend. Then I started seeing a transformation from Unconscious Negative Behavior all the way to Conscious Positive Behavior as I realized that overeating food was actually making me feel worse. So now, when I’m stressed I realize that eating fruits and vegetables makes me feel better in the long run because they help me to think better and give me more energy. I also exercise a minimum of three times a week.
I never thought that I would clearly understand how to change the relationship I had with food, but thanks to your program and lots of prayer, my life has changed. Thank you so much. “*
In The Words of KAM, Chicago, IL
“I can remember the time and place when I first found comfort in food. Yep, I was 13 years old, fall of my freshman year in high school, after school at 3:30pm, sitting in front of the television. I had finished half of box of vanilla wafers. Wow…I thought…”I enjoyed this so much, let’s try it again tomorrow”…and I did. I finished the box and from that day on “emotional eating/binging/purging” was the main part of my life.
I would diet, you name it…fasting diet, Weight Watcher’s three times, the vinegar, kelp, and vitamin water diet, cabbage soup diet…anything that would help me lose weight. I even attended meetings for “Overeaters Anonymous”!!! Oh yeah…the weight came off but it always came back. I was “married to my bathroom scale.” Have you seen the commercial with the woman with the bathroom scale “chained to her ankle” walking around? Well, that was me…42 years in an emotional state of an eating disorder. I would also go as far as using laxatives before a Weight Watcher meeting when I had to do my monthly maintenance weigh-in AND I would even spit out the window of my car (uh huh..gross) to help my weigh in. My life revolved around what the scale said EVERY morning. If my weight was “up” I was unhappy, if my weight was the same, I was unhappy, if I had lost…well then I was happy! BUT, I was always “on-the edge” with a binge. This was my “Achilles-heel”…carbohydrate binges in the evenings—cookies, ice cream, anything sweet, or potato chips.
I kept a journal for months of my weight and I found I could not go for more than 3 -5 days on average before I had to binge once again. Now, mind you…I am 5’1” and weigh between 120-125 pounds which is a healthy weight with a healthy BMI. I also walk in the mornings when possible, and here’s the “kicker”…I am a Heath/Fitness Teacher….go figure. I knew what to do, I knew what is healthy BUT I knew I had an eating disorder..Help.
And then 4 months ago I read about of “A Weigh- Out” in the August, 2007 Oprah Magazine. I went to their web site, read everything and said…Oh my gosh..this is me..maybe, just maybe…this will help. I felt guided as I scheduled a phone “meeting” to “discuss” and listen to what this was all about. There were others on the phone line and I realized…I am not alone.
At that point I decided to continue with more sessions with Ellen (the coach) and we would “talk” on a weekly basis. She sent me information and worksheets (which really made me “dig into” my psychological state and the “whys” of my behavior. Little my little I came to understand myself and “food thoughts” were put in its proper perspective. Guess what? I have not been weighing myself—a very big accomplishment — AND the best part….no binges. I have a completely different “mindset” on “who I am” and my relationship with myself and food. I am a lot happier and healthier. I have finally found freedom with A WEIGH OUT (way-out) after 43 years. Thank you…Ellen. “*
In The Words of Melissa in Washington, DC
“Ellen, I have thought about all the ways I could say that my life has changed in the past year of working with you. I think the one that sums it up and means the most to me is that I’m not afraid any more in the way that I once was. I’m not afraid of new social situations and I’m not afraid of losing control with food. I trust my own decisions and intuition in a way that I didn’t before. This frees up my energy to deal with other things so much more important than my next diet.
I also know that I can go anywhere and not be afraid of following/falling off a diet or not being able to find whatever it is I’m supposed to eat. I think that the weight loss will come in time now that I no longer binge but that is just one more factor in the overall sense of peace and well being I feel now. I know I was ready to do this when I found you. I doubt I could have gotten her without your assistance. Thank you. “*
In The Words of Carrie, San Francisco, CA
“I want to say thank you to Ellen for empowering me on my journey to be more mindful in everything I do, including and especially eating. Through the skills she has shown me I feel more confident that I may progress to where food does not control me anymore. I am still a “work in progress” but do feel less burdened, less reactive and have times where I am not thinking about food at all. I have bought the book she suggested “A New Earth” and the “Beginning Mindfulness” CD recommended, and daily I either read a few paragraphs or listen to a brief meditation. I carry my self-care list with me and check in with it daily to remind myself to feel what is going on and to step back if needed.
I highly recommend anyone with an emotional eating problem to seek some help through A Weigh Out. It will also carry over into other areas of your life. “*
In The Words of Bob from Ohio
“Ellen, I just wanted to say “THANKS!” for working with me these past few months. I have been on every diet known to the universe. The problem is that the word DIET means “Don’t eat this, or don’t eat that”. It never worked because the reason I ate was a “reward” to myself for working so many hours at my job, as well as eating to relieve stress. That is just plain wrong! When we were children, we were all taught to “Stop, Look, Listen” before we walked in a school crosswalk. The same goes for a healthy lifestyle.
Ellen helped me open my mind FIRST before I made a choice in diet, as well as other life choices. She works with nutritional skills, along with emotional skills and physical skills. I am no longer on a “diet”, but I now use my inner emotions to act opposite to my negative current emotions. A boxer goes to a neutral corner in a big match to analyze his next move. It’s more of that “stop, look,listen”.
If you are looking for another new diet plan, simply forget it. They don’t work! You need to change your mindset to change your eating patterns. Pills (Prescription and Over The Counter) DO NOT WORK! Trust me. I am a Pharmacist. All they do is raise your blood pressure and give you a cheap high. I was ready for a change. Thanks Ellen.”*
In The Words of N.B., Wisconsin
“Working with Ellen has been one of the best things I’ve done for myself in my entire life! Ellen taught me how to let go of all the things that weighed me down, so I could start living the healthy life that I’ve always wanted to live. The biggest relief is that this program has nothing to do with pounds or calories. It’s the answer to an emotional eater’s prayers! “*
In The Words of L. from Maryland
“Before I found this program, I was knowledgeable about what constituted a healthy diet yet I failed at every diet program that I tried because the diets were all about the food and following the diet rules (e.g., what to eat or not eat, counting calories or points, etc.). In contrast, this program taught me how and why I was using food to distract myself from remaining present in my life and taught me the strategies needed to shift my thinking from food thoughts to more effective behavior. The coaching that I received did not focus on my setting and meeting weekly goals for weight loss. On the contrary, the coaching provided instruction and objective, nonjudgmental guidance that led me toward intentional self-care and positive behavioral choices. As I implemented the strategies, the emotional eating dissipated and I became empowered to achieve my personal goals. This program truly changed my life for the better. “*
In The Words of S.S., North Carolina
“Thank you for your help, Ellen! I joined Overeaters Anonymous this past spring and I am happy to say that I have been able to not compulsively binge or overeat for 4 months. Coming from a family of Alcoholics, I can see how I have become a “behavior addict”. I have eliminated the “trigger foods” and I am working every day to deal with the emotions and not to disassociate from them or the situations. I am exercising at a Y closer to my new house. But I know that I would not have been able to be at this point if not for all the work you did with me. I wouldn’t be here without you. “*
In The Words of A.B. from Illinois
“Ellen and ‘A Weigh Out’ came along for me at just the right time. I knew the steps I had to take after many years of weight loss programs, therapy, discussion groups, many, many books read, etc. but talking with Ellen at this point in my life supported me enough to push through my deepest blocks and put the things I knew into action. Things all seemed to come together. My weight is coming down, I feel more balanced and aware than ever. Thank you Ellen for your huge piece in all of this.”*
In The Words T.K., Milwaukee, WI
“For years I’ve heard the sports logo “Just Do It” as a campaign to add activity to an otherwise sedentary life. I have also heard that all it takes to change your size is the “willpower,” a “Just Do It” attitude toward eating differently. But I never knew what to “just do.” I tried just about every eating program on the market, looking for the plan and the support that would help me with my life long food issues. But the more I focused on the food, counting points, calories, fat grams, carbs, ounces, or servings, the less I knew what to do as I slipped further and further away from my own body’s signals of hunger and fullness.
Even when I began changing my language about eating, moving my philosophies away from dieting and toward trusting my body to tell me what it wants and needs, I struggled to let go of the old habits and processes from the years of dieting. I had new language, new desires, healthier attitudes toward food and eating, but didn’t have the skills to turn those attitudes into life-changing actions.
A Weigh Out gave me some tangible, measurable skills to use to help me change the way I approach food. My coach taught me some tools I could use to set my own goals, to have more choices when I face feelings I am uncomfortable with, not just “eat” them. Using the skills helps me to walk through the discomfort without getting bogged down in it. Using the skills helps me redirect my focus onto the goals I want, to be proactive in making choices about food instead of being a victim of my old habits and associations.
Now when I think “Just Do It,” I have a set of skills to do. I can make choices about my eating, about my thoughts around food and my body (or any area of my life) by using the skills I have learned through the A Weigh Out program. I have learned skills that will last a lifetime, not just a fad that will be tried and gone. Unlike a diet which becomes harder the longer it lasts, the skills I have learned grow easier the more I use them. I have begun to see the changes I want in my life and believe for the first time that the changes will continue and be lasting.”*
In The Words of K.F. in Wisconsin
“Everything that you have done for me has been an amazing asset toward my recovery and my process in dealing with my eating issues. I have thoroughly loved working with you as well, and want to express to you how much more I learned from you beyond coping techniques for binge-eating. Take care, and eternal gratitude…”*
In The Words of SJC of Virginia
“During a particular low point in my life, I was surfing the web and came upon emotional eating and then emotional eating coaching. I had never heard of coaching before and knew I had this problem, so I decided to give them a call. From the very beginning, Ellen got me to refocus on what the weight was all about. She helped me find my way out of my negativity and to start not only being a mindful eater, but someone who believed in herself and all the potential good things that were waiting for me in life. To say that I have experienced a miraculous transformation in the five months that I did coaching is an understatement. I am now exercising five days a week, eating mindfully and working on projects that are more in tune with what I have always wanted to do. As Ellen would say, “the weight will come off” as I stop doing the things I did that kept it on. I am now looking forward to a healthy, happy and bright future because of my coaching. Ellen, Coaching has turned my life around and I will forever be appreciative of you for that. Thanks once again for all you have done.”*
In The Words of K.B., Minnesota
“I’m thrilled with the changes I’ve already experienced in many different areas of my life due to the tools Ellen has taught me! Ellen takes the time to thoroughly listen to me. Then she provides practical step by step solutions. She also worked with me to discover the skills to arrive at the solutions for myself.”*
In The Words of Cynthia, Idaho
“I’m just so thankful for having found this program. It feels like the missing piece of the puzzle that has eluded me for all these years. It has truly changed my life and I know it will continue to do so as I work at knowing the skills better. I no longer despair over wondering why I can’t figure out what my problem is. And knowing I have a choice in what I’m doing is incredibly liberating. “*
In The Words of Jennifer, North Miami, Florida
“More than a year after my gastric bypass surgery, I was on a quest to find greater stability in my relationship with food. While my stomach had limits on how much food I could eat, my mind still wanted to keep eating! Ellen’s approach to change is completely action-oriented and was based on what I was willing to commit to change. She taught me to find the real triggers of my emotional eating and then how to regulate my reactions to those situations to achieve a peaceful relationship with food. What a gift! I had worked with other people and as a coach Ellen far exceeds them in effectiveness. I think it is so important to realize that gastric bypass surgery is one tool to regain your health, but the skills Ellen teaches to overcome emotional eating is another critical tool. Ellen has allowed me to become mindful of my relationship with food and to choose my today and my tomorrow…it’s my choice!” *
In The Words of DZ, Ohio
“It’s hard to sum up what the work with Ellen has meant to me. Life changing. The tools to change have been provided which I’ll carry the rest of my life. Everyone always wants to know, “but how much weight have you lost?”. “Sixteen pounds in 9 weeks”, I say. But that’s merely a by-product of what I’ve learned in my work with Ellen, which has instilled in me the desire to make healthy and care-ful choices. Shifts in attitude and perception produce lasting change and unlike the many diets which have failed me over the years, this process will never end. I’ve never felt so free from “food rules” and the grip of a diet with all the accompanying cravings, guilt, and regret. Like a breath of fresh air. Hope!”*
In The Words of D., New Jersey
“Prior to working with Ellen Shuman, I struggled with compulsive overeating and an addiction to a broad range of diet drugs that seemed insurmountable. Years of work with doctors, therapists and nutritionists resulted in temporary fixes, but never led to real change or permanent resolution. Ellen’s endless patience and wisdom taught me that a rich, rewarding and healthy life was possible only if I made self care my #1 priority. Throughout the time we worked together, Ellen listened intently to stories reflecting all aspects of my life – my food, my marriage, my work, my spirituality, exercise, negative self talk – and helped me to know that I could choose self care over self defeating behaviors. When tending to my emotional, physical, nutritional and spiritual needs became the primary focus of my life, all else fell into place. My marriage improved. My business boomed. And, of course, my health flourished as my weight diminished. I could never have made these significant changes in my life without the expert guidance of Ellen Shuman. Thank you, Ellen. You are the best.”*
In The Words of MEM, Cleveland, Ohio
“Life is definitely different than before. Thirteen months ago, I was flailing around trying to “figure it all out”—food, weight, etc., etc. I was in a 12-step support group for many years, but it just wasn’t cutting it—something was just not right. I got tired of praying to God to take the damn brownie away! I knew deep-down that I had a choice in the matter. Don’t get me wrong—12-step groups are wonderful and they worked for me for a long time, but I came to a point where I just needed something more and Ellen had exactly what I was looking for. I was frustrated and I knew that a lot of it had to do with my “operating system”—my mind, my thoughts, my feelings, and what to do with them all. I needed very simple, hands-on instructions, and I found them with Ellen.
The best way to describe Ellen’s program is “mindfulness training.” I knew instantly that Ellen could help me when I participated in her 1-hour conference call seminar. I hired her to be my Life Coach that same day. Through my work with her, I’ve learned that changing my relationship with food and weight all starts with installing a type of “monitoring system” in my mind and watching a screen of my own thoughts, feelings, and intentions float by like an afternoon matinee. I tune into mindfulness and become aware of all those conversations, stories, beliefs, and judgements rolling around in my head—and now, the nice thing about it is I get to decide what to do with them instead of numbing out with a ½ gallon of ice cream.
I already knew what “my issues” were in life when I came on board with Ellen. I was tired of talking about them and wanted to do something about them. With Ellen I was able to UN-learn old ways of thinking and behaving. This is NOT about psychoanalysis—this is about having someone coach me on day-to-day life, and how to manage my thoughts and emotions in a healthy, pro-active way, instead of taking a trip to the ice cream store.”*
In The Words of Margo T., Germany
“Ellen, a key reason I chose to work with you instead of other coaches was your expertise in the subject of emotional eating. You came across as a credible and expert source. Food has lost its power! I no longer need it to self-medicate. Through your guidance, expertise and experience with emotional eating, I have found better ways to cope, fulfill, live and enjoy my life. Food was constantly my first line of defense-my stimulus reaction to all emotions. I now know what role food played in my life. I look forward to no longer living a life of feeling out of control, trapped, and guilty. Going through this learning experience made the difference.”*
In The Words of Francis, Las Vegas, NV
“I have suffered from emotional eating since childhood and had learned to cope with my insanity. Finally, in exhaustion, instead of weight loss and diet controls, I dared to seek true liberation from obsession, compulsion and frustration around food. That’s when I found Ellen (a case of when the student is ready, the teacher appears). The lessons and skills that Ellen presented in our conversations seemed too simple, at first. After applying myself to the tasks at hand, I found them to work immediately and very effectively. The peace of mind I have found through being willing to become fully aware of my feelings, and by making conscious choices in the moment, is a precious life-giving gift. Thank you Ellen for developing this approach that truly works! You are a goddess!”*
In The Words of CB, Alberta, Canada
“For me, it has been overwhelming to think that I could overcome and understand my emotional eating. With Ellen’s help, I have done that. Words cannot describe the freedom I feel and the control I have. Coaching has been extremely powerful for me and all I can say is WOW!
Ellen, you have been an inspiration to me and have helped me figure out who I am and that I am very normal. I feel at peace for the first time in my life.”*
In The Words of Traci H., Wisconsin
“Thank you! You have given me the tools and perspective to strike out on my own. You’ve got a great thing here, Ellen. There are thousands of unhappy souls who have and will continue to benefit from your insightfulness, kindness, and most of all, empathy. To engage in such personal, heart wrenching discussions with someone who has experience with this personally and professionally, just made such sense to me. Additionally, coaching by telephone was very effective for me. I would never have discussed any of my deepest thoughts and feelings if we had been face to face. Don’t be surprised if I call you again for a little tweaking.”*
In The Words of Teresa G., Cincinnati, OH,
Just a quick note to say thanks for all of your help and to express my appreciation for your coaching and the “A Weigh Out” program. I have learned excellent new skills for mindful thinking during the time we have been working together. It is amazing how the mind (emotions) can be changed by knowing these new skills!”*