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Weight and Health Myths

Myths about Weight and healthI’m always looking for new ways to bust the many myths about weight and health that are so regularly and erroneously repeated in our world. That’s why I’m so excited to share Dr. Linda Bacon’s new 4-part video series that busts weight and health myths, explains why diets don’t work, how the war on obesity, stigmatizing larger bodies, is harmful vs helpful, and what we can all do differently to improve health.

Below is her video on myths about weight and health. For others in the series, visit Linda’s website.

To listen to interviews I’ve done with Linda about her books, Health at Every Size: The Surprising Truth About Your Weight, and Body Respect: What Conventional Health Books Get Wrong, Leave Out, and Just Plain Fail to Understand about Weight, by Linda Bacon & Lucy Aphramor, check out my TeleSeminar page.  (FYI, you can listen to all 40+ Seminars with Membership–Free for 21 days).

 

 

Do You Waste Time Feeling Criticized!

How much of our time, talent, and gifts have we each wasted feeling criticized about our body shape, or size, or configuration…or even just worrying that others might possibly criticize us?

How much time would you say you waste each week feeling criticized?

Have you spent time desperately wishing we could look different; thinner, taller, longer legs, bigger or smaller breasts, straighter nose, older, younger, less hairy…you name a body part and we can be unhappy about it.

That’s why I loved this video and its message!

“The world needs more women who are willing to rock their bodies exactly the way God made them. Be that person…”  ~ Rachel Farnsworth

Listen as Rachel Farnsworth, the Stay at Home Chef and food blogger, responds to critical comments posted on her YouTube Channel.

Done feeling criticized for the body you have? Then, BE THAT PERSON!

What do you think? What, if anything, keeps you from embracing the body you have?

Leave Our Appearance Alone!

Victoria Beckham

Victoria Beckham-Photo Source Facebook

OMG! As if we don’t already have enough to feel self-conscious about when it comes to our appearance, now we have to be concerned about how we look when our face is at rest???? Apparently we have a new label, “Resting Bitch Face”? Really?

The Washington Post recently reported that Designer Victoria Beckham, singer Kayne West, actress Kristen Stewart, and the Queen of England, just to name a few, each have one…and that actress Anna Kendrick says she does, too. It’s called a “Resting Bitch Face”. Reportedly, it’s a face that tends to, when at rest, look annoyed judgey, bored, or full of contempt.

Oh, my….it has even been studied! Read about that study here, “Scientists have discovered what causes Resting Bitch Face”.

You should see the look on my face right now! Reading that article just made me feel more anxious…how about you?

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I’m Ellen Shuman and I’m perpetually amazed by how many new ways people can bully others. I am also a pioneer in the field of binge eating disorder treatment; a Coach who specializes in helping people overcome binge eating, binge eating disorder, emotional eating, compulsive eating, and food addiction, founder of A Weigh Out  Life Coaching & Members’ Circle, Acoria Binge Eating Disorder Treatment (1993-present), a Past President of the Binge Eating Disorder Association (2011/2012), and Co-Founder of the Academy for Eating Disorders Special Interest Group on “Health at Every Size”, ellen@aweighout.com, 513-321-4242.

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Health at Every Size; Should Your Weight and Health Be Just Like Everyone Elses’ and your Poodles?

Three women ilustrating Health at Every SizeYou may have heard the term,” HAES” ; Health at Every Size and wondered what that means?

Read more about Health at Every Size here.

 

Here are some questions to test your assumptions about size, shape, weight, and health

  • Do you assume all people who live at a higher weight than the cultural “ideal“, should try to lose weight in order to be healthy and look good?
  • Do you think you and others are destined to be at higher risk for health problems because you are not as thin as the weight charts or maybe your doctor wants you to be?
  • Do you assume researchers and doctors are right when they say higher weight people are at risk?
  • Do you just assume ALL woman and men who live large are “unhealthy”?
  • Would you think the same about the health of a Bull Mastiff if you saw him standing next to a Standard Poodle?

Please watch this video.”The Problem with Poodle Science”, produced by the Association for Size Diversity and Health (ASDAH). It’s a great way to see if you have bought into the false science, assumptions, even weight bias and stigma heaped upon human bodies.

 

What do you think?

If you’d like to read more about scientific research that supports the Health at Every Size Paradigm, as a better approach to improving health and well-being, I encourage you to read this paper I co-authored. It was recently published in the Journal of Obesity. Click this link, “The Weight-Inclusive versus Weight-Normative Approach to Health: Evaluating the Evidence for Prioritizing Well-Being over Weight Loss”. Once on the Journal’s web page, look for the “Full -Text PDF” Option on the right. Save the PDF, print the paper, and share it with every healthcare provider and person you know who still thinks all people (and dogs) should be the same size.

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I’m Ellen Shuman and I am a Health at Every Size proponent. I Coach people who are ready to focus on their health; emotional, physical, nutritional, spiritual, instead of wasting time searching for the next diet. I am the founder of A Weigh Out  Life Coaching & Members’ Circle, Acoria Binge Eating Disorder Treatment (1993-present), a Past President of the Binge Eating Disorder Association (2011/2012), and Co-Founder of the Academy for Eating Disorders Special Interest Group on “Health at Every Size”. If interested in learning more, contact me, ellen@aweighout.com, 513-321-4242.

One of Life’s Greatest Mysteries!

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Why Are We So Damn Proud of Weight Loss?

Why are we so proud of weight loss?The other day, as I was swiping my credit card at the Costco checkout line, I was surprised to hear a man’s voice say, “Hi, Ellen”. It was a very nice man I’ve known for 25 years. He works for the computer company that has sold me and serviced every business and personal computer I have owned since 1989.

It had been about 18 months since I’d seen him (no computer crashes in that time). The last time I’d seen him he was on crutches and clearly in pain. I asked how his knee was doing. He shared that he had had a successful knee replacement. Good for him, I said.

As he walked me out of Costco and into the parking lot, he volunteered how pleased he was with his 30 pound weight loss in prep for the surgery. Then, he told me how proud his wife was of him for losing the weight. Then, he went on to say how thrilled his doctor was that he had shed 30 pounds. And then, we said goodbye and headed to our cars.

I was so struck by how proud he was of his weight loss.

On my drive home, I found myself thinking, what else might he be proud of in his life. In the few minutes we had together, I would have loved to have heard about some interesting or selfless act he had done for a neighbor or friend. I would have loved to have heard that since his surgery he’d been walking homeless dogs at a local shelter, or about a wonderful trip he and his wife had taken to a new city, or country, or to the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame and Museum

What is it about sticking to a diet, weight loss, being or getting thin that makes people feel so proud… or so ashamed, when the outcome is not what they hoped? Is that really what we covet most in life? Is that the most important goal we could possibly achieve?

What do you think? Have you ever missed out on more enlivening, enriching, enlightening, enjoyable life pursuits or activities because all you could think about was how much you weighed?

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Ellen Shuman is an Emotional Eating Coach who specializes in helping people overcome compulsive eating, binge eating disorder, and food addiction. She is continuously amazed and saddened by how much time people spend obsessing about weight; their own and others!  She is the founder of A Weigh Out & Acoria Binge Eating Disorder Treatment (1993-present), Past President of the Binge Eating Disorder Association (2011/2012), and Co-Founder of the Academy for Eating Disorders Special Interest Group on “Health at Every Size”, Contact Ellen, ellen@aweighout.com, or 513-321-4242.

Bruce Jenner Interview; Asks for Understanding, Then Calls Former Olympic Competitor Overweight, Therefore a Loser? Really?

Bruce Jenner Interview-ABC News

Bruce Jenner Interview-ABC News

A friend just asked me what I thought of last night’s Diane Sawyer Bruce Jenner interview…

I was moved by Bruce Jenner’s courage and obvious pain. I have great compassion for anyone who feels they have had to pretend to be somebody they are not.

I fear he’s facing hard times ahead, as he is about to live as a woman. I wish the paparazzi, tabloids, and late night comedians would leave him alone…but I can’t imagine they will. I also hope his desire to make a genuine difference for other transgender people is not tainted by his association, past or present, with the publicity crazed Kardashians.

My only negative feelings came soon into the interview when he shared that he’d recently run into Russian Nikolay Avilov, whose record he broke during the 1976 Olympic Decathlon. With a huge smile on his face, Jenner gloats about Avilov’s appearance today, “He was overweight and out of shape. I won that battle, too.”

So, here is Jenner, asking people for understanding and tolerance as he transitions to being the woman he feels he has always been, but he doesn’t give a second thought to judging the now 66 year old Avilov as “a loser” because he doesn’t look like the athlete he was when he was in his 20’s. Jenner “wins” because he is thinner? Really?

People continue to amaze me! Talk about weight bias being the last bastion of judgment and stigma…and from a person who is asking for tolerance and understanding because he was born in a body that did not match how he feels about himself.

He says he wants “to be remembered as true to himself”. Does that include seeing himself as better than fat people and seeing fat people as losers???? In truth, in the middle of his gender identity struggle, I’m sure it never even crossed Bruce Jenner’s mind that his judgmental comment about another person’s body was intolerant, prejudicial, rude…or proof of weight-ism.

As his appearance changes, I hope people will treat him with less superficial judgment, more thoughtfulness and acceptance than he offered his former fellow athlete. I wish Jenner well…

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I am Ellen Shuman and I am an anti-weight stigma advocate. I am also a pioneer in the field of binge eating disorder treatment; a Coach who specializes in helping people overcome binge eating, binge eating disorder, emotional eating, compulsive eating, and food addiction, founder of A Weigh Out  Life Coaching & Members’ Circle, Acoria Binge Eating Disorder Treatment (1993-present). I am a Past President of the Binge Eating Disorder Association (2011/2012), and Co-Founder of the Academy for Eating Disorders Special Interest Group on “Health at Every Size”, ellen@aweighout.com, 513-321-4242.

Saying ,”Yuck, I look like a Cow”, Not Helpful to Any Emotional Eater

Writing post about emotional eater and shameAs I write this post, I’m wearing my anti-weight stigma advocacy hat…

A while back, I found an email in my INBOX from a life coach who was marketing a first time weight loss class. The subject line said ” I am 3/4 the person that I used to be…”

OK, I was curious. So I opened the email and I went to her website. I learned this coach normally specializes in coaching women in business. But now, after losing some weight herself, her newest offering was a class to help people “create an amazing body… and look and feel great”.

In both her marketing video and sales copy (her before & after weight loss pictures included), she said she was motivated to change a great deal in her life after looking at a photo of herself and saying, “Yuck, I look like a cow! How did I get this fat?” That’s an exact quote.

Please understand where I’m coming from…I feel one of the most important missions in my life is to contribute to the end of weight stigma; internal and external.  And I have never ever before publically commented on any other coach’s marketing strategy or approach to selling her services. (I believe in freedom of speech and everyone’s right to make a living within ethical bounds.) But what she said really bothered me!

So, I wrote to her. We had a brief, civil exchange. But, when all was said and done, I just don’t think she understood that her comments, even if only written about how she felt about her own body (which is how she defended what she wrote), still perpetuated weight stigma.

I hope her class was wonderfully empowering and her content was different from her marketing copy….because, in my book, you are a whole person (not 3/4), with all the same talents and gifts, no matter how much adipose tissue (fat) you happen to have on your body on any given day. I would hope that anyone who plans to work with women who struggle with emotional eating issues will help those women build self-esteem and lessen shame, regardless of what they weigh or how much weight they might or might not lose.

My real hope for those of us who have struggled with or still identify with being an emotional eater or a binge eater, is that we get to recover from emotional eating without calling ourselves (or anyone else) names. I hope we can let go of the judgment and the shame, knowing in our hearts and minds that what we weigh does not define who we are or limit what we are capable of contributing to the world and to those we love…unless we let it.

I hope that shift happens in my lifetime. It’s my greatest wish! I know it’s a huge one!

All Shapes and Sizes; “I Jiggle Therefore I Am”

I love this video!!! A colleague of mine, who’s currently teaching in Great Britain, sent me the link. She says this campaign, which celebrates active women of all shapes and sizes, is getting lots of positive attention in the UK. (The only criticism has been that the video does not show enough active older women.) It was produced by Sport England; an organization committed to helping people and communities across the UK create sporting habits for life.

What do you think?

 

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