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She suggested “fatties get a room”

Have you heard about the huge controversy freelance writer Maura Kelly created when she wrote a post for Marie Claire Magazine’s online blog? It’s titled, Should “fatties” get a room? 

In it, she shares her disgust over watching the characters in the CBS comedy “Mike and Molly” kiss.  Holy cow!  The you-know-what has hit the fan!  As I write this, there are already 1900 comments on the blog and that number is rapidly climbing. (How did Marie Claire let this run? No editors on staff?)

Kelly writes, “…yes, I think I’d be grossed out if I had to watch two characters with rolls and rolls of fat kissing each other … because I’d be grossed out if I had to watch them doing anything. To be brutally honest, even in real life, I find it aesthetically displeasing to watch a very, very fat person simply walk across a room — just like I’d find it distressing if I saw a very drunk person stumbling across a bar or a heroine addict slumping in a chair.”

The New York Daily News just published an article about the reaction to the blog post.  Here’s an excerpt…
“Many commenters said they were stunned that Marie Claire, a women’s magazine with a history of empathy for women’s issues, including body image, would publish such a tone-deaf piece. Many wrote that they would be cancelling their subscriptions and would tell their friends to do the same.”

Writer Kelly ends her post by asking this. 

“What do you guys think? Fat people making out on TV — are you cool with it? Do you think I’m being an insensitive jerk?”

An insensitive jerk, yes. A rude, ignorant person, a size-ist…need I say more?

OK. This just in. Kelly has posted an apology on the blog.

“UPDATE: I would really like to apologize for the insensitive things I’ve said in this post. Believe it or not, I never wanted anyone to feel bullied or ashamed after reading this, and I sorely regret that it upset people so much. A lot of what I said was unnecessary. It wasn’t productive, either.” Read the entire apology here…

Could this explain away her bad behavior? She writes…

“…(and on a more personal level), a few commenters and one of my friends mentioned that my extreme reaction might have grown out of my own body issues, my history as an anorexic, and my life-long obsession with being thin. As I mentioned in the ongoing dialogue we’ve been carrying on in the comments section, I think that’s an accurate insight.”

I’m sorry she struggled with an eating disorder. I can empathize. Likely, we’re seeing her eating disporder at play here. Still, for me, the apology rings hollow. I still find myself wondering whether she truly feels badly or if she wrote this on threat of losing her gig. Hmmmm, her blog post about Mike and Molly certainly got her a lot of attention…scary part for me is that she expressed what a lot of ignorant people don’t say but still feel about fat people .

What do you think? Did her rant stir up some feelings in you?

Comments

  1. I have not read her article. I don’t read Marie Claire and thanks to this blog I don’t think I ever will. Thanks for the heads up on such an awful article. We should have empathy for this woman because she was anorexic so that gives her permission to write such hateful things about people who are larger than her tolerance expects them to be? Ha! Yes this rant has definitely stirred up feelings in me! This woman is prejudice and cruel- plain and simple. It gives me hope that others have commented on her article and told her how thoughtless her actions were rather than standing by silently and allowing her to believe her actions were ok.

  2. Ellen Shuman, Emotional Eating Coach; A Weigh Out says:

    I just checked. As of this writing there are 2554 Comments to her original post and Update (apology). She may have been the best thing that could have happened to the size acceptance and health at every size movements.
    Unfortunately, sometimes it takes someone like this to rally the troops in protest…and to get the people who are still on the fence thinking about their own biases. Too bad it takes “hate-speak” to accomplish this. But most important is that the change in attitude on a broader scale is coming!

  3. Marie Claire made a huge boo boo! Kelly’s apology is like putting a bandaid on a gaping/gushing wound. All the comments show that something good can always come out of something bad.

  4. Ellen Shuman, Emotional Eating Coach; A Weigh Out says:

    I so agree, Nina, with everything you wrote! See the new blog post I just wrote.

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