When I first start working with a Coaching Client, and he or she reports feeling “stuck”, I offer a series of homework questions . The answers often leads to clarity about where the focus of our work needs to be.
People also report that this marked the very beginning of a shift —from constant struggle —to feeling much more empowered to make the changes they’d been talking about making for a years.
So, today, I thought I’d share some of those questions with you. I highly recommend carving out some quiet time to answer these. You may be surprised by what you learn about yourself.
1. What keeps you up at night, regarding your binge eating problem?
2. When you think about changing your relationship with food, what’s the biggest struggle or obstacle you face?
3. Name the one goal around stopping emotional or binge eating that feels unobtainable? Why do you think it’s unobtainable?
4. If you could learn one thing that could help you stop emotional or binge eating, what do you think that would be?
5. Name the changes you’d like to make.
6. What would be better in your life if you could accomplish those changes? For example, would making those changes make you happier, more content, healthier, more social, have more energy, etc.?
7. Are you willing to dive in and do the work on your own? If not, do you need support, like a Coach or a Therapist? What’s keeping you from asking for that help?
When it comes to #7, often, the first thing I hear people say is, “I can’t afford to get help.” Sometimes, people who say that truly are in dire financial straights. But often, when we dig a little deeper, the true obstacle is fear; fear of change, fear of giving up food as a way to self-soothe or to go numb, fear of feeling like you’ve failed, yet again…
If you’d like to learn more about recovery from a binge eating problem, you’re welcome to join me for one of my Sunday TeleSeminars about overcoming an emotional or binge eating problem. Just Click Here. My TeleSeminar is FREE! No obstacle to joining in!
Ellen Shuman is a pioneer in the field of Binge Eating Disorder; a Life Coach who specializes in helping people overcome emotional eating, compulsive eating, binge eating disorder, and food addiction. She is the founder of A Weigh Out & Acoria Binge Eating Disorder Treatment (1993-present), A Founding Member and Past President of BEDA; The Binge Eating Disorder Association (2011/2012), and Co-Founder of the Academy for Eating Disorders Special Interest Group on “Health at Every Size”. For information about Coaching Services, contact firstname.lastname@example.org, 513-321-4242.